Shakespeare was right…
July 22, 2010
In Act I Scene 3 of Hamlet, Polonius told his son Laertes some simple rules to live by.
The one we all remember is “Neither a borrower nor a lender be; For loan oft loses both itself and friend”.
Which is a brilliant piece of advice.
I’m reminded of this because today I went to the DeYoung to see the Birth of Impressionism exhibit, which was so beautiful and educational.
While I was there I was thinking about the International Arts and Crafts: William Morris to Frank Lloyd Wright exhibit I went to a few years ago. I got the exhibit catalog and when I found out a friend was redoing her house in all authentic Arts and Crafts I lent her the book. She’s had it for years. Never mentioned it, never mentioned returning it.
I don’t think she’s keeping it on purpose, I just don’t think she thinks about the fact that she has something of mine and since I have not asked for it back there’s not reason for her to give it another thought.
I just sent an email asking for it back.
It’s mine and I want it. I also wonder if asking for my own book back will have an effect on our friendship. How stupid is that?
And if it does then this isn’t a friendship I want.
I’m tired of lending people things and explaining that it’s a loan and then never getting the item (usually a book) back.
I’m not going to lend another book without a damn fine reason ever again.
well… not without a damn good reason.